Pouty Wall Mood
The pout is an inward retreat in self defense, reacting to a recognition of subjectivity. She does not get what she wants, and she realizes she is feeling selfish, and does not know how to handle the self wallowing except to disengage from others. Perhaps there is a recognizing of being “moody”, from years of experience of being a subject to victimhood, lack of control, stress, the demands and conditions of life. Next, a lack of maturity developed to address how to deal with these various tests of character. Then, the self defense of avoidance of interactions with others or responsibilities, since the past has taught her that she does not want to be accountable in this stubborn state, feeling like a small trigger could cause an irreparable crash of emotions.
The pout is a shutting down to the outside, and an acceptance of subjectivity. It is acknowledging that she is stuck in her own emotions and she panics and surrenders to them, unwilling or feeling unable to fight against them. It is selfish, and accepting of being so. She is unwilling to compromise with others, to refocus from her own needs.
When two pouts intersect, there is an impasse. Since it is a state of selfish subjectivity, there is no negotiation or sympathy. A battle of stubbornness ensues until one pout yields, which is usually replaced with resentment.
When do you find yourself pouting? What do you do about it?