Ego Size
He has a big ego.
He states his opinions as objective facts, proclamations to be pondered and admired. He is not used to being challenged, or he ignores or waves away any questions. “Nonsense!” he declares with authority to any dissents.
He sees himself as deserving his attitude; others see him as pretentious.
His presence he makes known wherever he goes; it is usually recognized because he makes it so whenever he enters a room.
Sometimes he is called “arrogant”, but he takes it as a compliment from those he thinks are jealous of how better he is than them. His mother had always told him he was special, and in doing so taught him to seek her approval.
He can feel ashamed in a moment when it is pointed out he is not focused and contributing anything relevant to the discussion, but he doesn’t recognize a pattern so he can learn from the reactions to his audacity.
He befriends and surrounds himself with small egos so he can have his worth confirmed often.
She has a small ego.
She suggests her thoughts as hypotheses to be proven wrong, with a question mark at the end. She is used to being corrected, and even prepares for it in her formulation: “I feel”, “for me”, “but others may disagree,” she invites.
She sees herself as deserving her attitude; others see her as weak and dependent.
She is so inconsequential that sometimes others don’t realize she is there; she moves about quiet as a mouse.
Sometimes she is called “meek”, but she takes it as a compliment because that is what scripture says you should be. She has been taught to be meek, from her father by authority, and from her mother by example.
She relives her moments of embarrassment in her head and as a result tries to limit her risk for future awkwardness by living passively.
She befriends and surrounds herself with big egos so she can have her worth questioned often.
Both of them are reliant on the recognition of others for their self-worth.
Both of them can have moments of experiencing the extreme opposite state if anyone overfeeds them with recognition.
I really liked the 2 perspectives masculine and feminine that you took to explore the different relations to ego. Insightful because I can identify this pattern in myself.